How To Tell If He Is In Love With You – The 3 Stages Men Go ThroughMarch 21, 2010
The common question “How do I know if he is in love with me?” is often asked by woman from all walks of life. Men truly are simple creatures compared to us women and they can be quite easy to figure out once you know how. If you can learn to identify the 3 stages he goes through when falling in love it will be easier for you to ensure he flies through them quickly and effortlessly.
Stage 1 – Love At First Sight
Men are very visual creatures and in the same way a woman is believed to decide within 15 seconds of meeting a man whether or not he is worthy of her, a man will have decided whether or not you turn him on within the same amount of time.
If he likes the look of you, you are already 1/3 of the way to having him eating out of the palm of your hand. Men subconsciously go for women who they believe will provide their future offspring with good genes. This is why men tend to go for different types of women. Some men like a woman with what is commonly known as “child baring hips” and others may prefer big boobs or long legs. For a lot of men it could be a combination of things.
You will either turn him on or you won’t, but you can give yourself a better chance by ensuring you always look your best. Not only for him, but for you as well because when you look good, you feel good and this will radiate in your personality.
Always try and be the best version of yourself that you can be. If that means you have to eat healthier, exercise more, take the time to do your hair every day, look after your skin or whatever area of your outer appearance that may require work then you owe it to yourself to do it.
If he is attracted to you, you will know it. He will not be able to hide it and he will often communicate it by being unable to take his eyes off of you, constantly trying to touch or caress you and probably complimenting you often.
Stage 2 – He Sees You As Unique
Once he has gotten over the attraction phase he will start to get to know you and he will look for things about you that are unique and special to him. It may be something like the way you stir your coffee or the face you pull when thinking deeply about something. He needs to feel like he has found something precious that no other man has. He will comment on how cute or quirky it is when you do a particular thing, and this is the sign that he has moved on to stage 2. This may happen quicker for some men then it does for others.
Make sure that you show him just how funny and cute you are and how you can bring passion and excitement into his life just by being you. We all have our little endearing qualities and you need to flaunt these to him.
For example, my fiancé loves how I sometimes say things in a cute childlike voice. Some men may find that annoying, but it makes him go crazy with love for me, so I do it more often. Be careful though, because what works for one man, may not work for another. It’s best to be yourself and pick up on the clues he will give you as to what he likes and what he doesn’t.
Stage 3 – You Make Him Want To Be A Better Man
He feels happier being with you than he has with anyone else. At this stage he should already be telling you that he is in love with you or at least hinting at it.
He feels like he can achieve anything with you by his side and because of your supportive and encouraging nature towards him, he will be more inclined to improve other areas of his life while he is with you.
This is where you need to be his personal cheerleader and ego booster. It will help him to realise he is with the right person at the right time and he will happily commit himself to you and your relationship.
A man feels good about a woman who makes him feel good about himself!